How are you feeling at this time of year? Are you thriving on the Christmas buzz or do you wish you could go to sleep and wake-up in January?
Whichever camp you’re in, there’s no denying that a healthy dose of emotional resilience is needed during Christmas and the weeks before.
There are so many pressures and expectations - financially, emotionally, physically, mentally - even the most emotionally and physically resilient of us can find this time of year challenging.
For all sorts of reasons, Christmas can often trigger feelings of sadness, anxiety, loneliness and even depression.
So how can you support yourself at this time of year?
Here's a few ways to inspire you to take care of yourself, and make this your own special brand of Christmas!
Acknowledge Your Emotions
While Christmas is often portrayed as the "most wonderful time of the year," it’s okay to feel a mix of emotions. Whether it's sadness for loved ones who are no longer with us, stress from holiday expectations, or the overwhelm of managing family dynamics, it’s important to acknowledge these feelings without judgment.
Emotional resilience starts with self-compassion - recognizing that it's okay not to feel particularly "merry".
Set Realistic Expectations
Challenge your long-held dream of a “perfect” Christmas. Try accepting where you are, and what you have, as enough. Focusing on the positives in your life can help take the pressure off. There are always positives in your life and they are usually the simple but most important things, such as health, a warm home, family or friends.
Maybe you can update your own personal meaning of this time of year. For example, if it's always been about partying, or spending lots of money on gifts, perhaps doing things differently this year will bring you more benefits. How about investing those resources in yourself, to go away for a weekend to re-charge your batteries or open yourself to new people, learning and adventures?
What about New Years’ traditions and expectations? This can be a great time to go away on a yoga or meditation retreat to nurture your body, mind and spirit!
Make Time for Yourself and your Needs
It's easy to get caught up in all sorts of things at this time of year, so it’s important to take some time for yourself. Go for your run/yoga class/walk/nap instead of giving those things up - we all know the list is endless at this time of year, so it’s up to you to look after yourself by continuing to do the things that help you feel good. These things will only improve your emotional & physical health at the end of day, and help prevent Christmas burn-out.
Prioritize Self-Care
In the rush to make everything perfect for others, it's easy to forget about yourself. Emotional resilience thrives when we take care of our mental and physical health. Make time for self-care, whether it’s enjoying a few quiet moments with a book, taking a walk, or cooking something nourishing while listening to uplifting music! Small acts of self-care can help you recharge and maintain balance.
Maybe your action plan for the lead-up to Christmas is to create a cozy and warm home retreat where you can restore your body and mind. Instead of spending your resources – financial, emotional & physical – on shopping and socialising, invest in your own emotional resilience. Ignite your inner sense of strength with quiet and space. Treat yourself to gifts of beautiful candles, nourishing food and Netflix!
Reach Out for Support
The holidays are often a time of togetherness, but not everyone has a support network nearby. If you’re feeling isolated or overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to reach out for support. Whether it’s talking to a trusted friend, connecting with a support group, or seeking professional help, asking for support is a sign of strength, not weakness. Emotional resilience often comes from the courage to ask for help when you need it.
Focus on What Matters
At it's heart, Christmas is a time for connection, gratitude, and reflection. Instead of getting caught up in the material side of the season, focus on what truly matters to you. Whether it’s spending time with loved ones, practicing gratitude, or engaging in acts of kindness, focusing on what brings you joy and meaning can help you maintain emotional resilience.
May you find strength, peace and comfort during these coming weeks. Go on, you deserve it!
🌿 2 unique Wellbeing Events over Christmas! If you'd like to give yourself the gift relaxation and energy, join me for one of my special Yoga & Shiatsu sessions! Treat yourself, or someone who needs it, to this unique healing experience.
"Revive & Restore" on 29th December - details here - and "Welcome the New with Intention" - details here - on 5th January in Greystones, Co Wicklow.
Article by Kerry White
Kerry is a Wellbeing Coach, Facilitator & Speaker. Her popular practical workplace sessions equip people with practical tools to help them deal with stress and common health & well-being issues such as backache, fatigue and anxiety.
Kerry also supports women contemplating a non-traditional path to motherhood. Kerry understands the challenges involved in making hard decisions in life - she gave birth to her daughter at 49, having made the tough, but rewarding decision, to pursue solo motherhood,
For more information on Kerry's workplace sessions, visit: https://www.kerrywellbeing.com/
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